For parents who learn of the loss of their child, it is often unimaginable at first how they can cope with the unmanageable, difficult path that now lies ahead of them. If you can take your time, you will become more capable of acting again step by step.
Take your time
If the parents have learned that their child has already died or will soon die, the desire for a "quick release" from the stressful situation is often great. An immediate induction of labor or a cesarean section may then seem to them to be the only conceivable solution. However, it is advisable not to rush into anything, to think about the decision carefully and to weigh it up with the midwife, the doctor or the physician.
A separation from a child that is completed too quickly can make it difficult for parents to say goodbye and can burden them later on. Following the natural course of events and waiting for the birth may make it easier for them to keep up with the event mentally as well and give space to their grief. Perhaps there is still time to prepare for the birth and the farewell in peace and quiet. The couple can think about how they want to handle this special task and challenge and what might best help them to do so.
A birth that is also a farewell can be a profound and unforgettable experience.
Induce or wait for the birth?
Normally, from a medical point of view, it is possible to wait for the natural onset of labor, even if the unborn child is no longer alive. This can take several days, or even two weeks or longer, depending on the maturity of the pregnancy. During this time, intensive support from the midwife, the doctor is important. As long as the accompanying examinations remain inconspicuous and there are no special signs such as bleeding, waiting does not pose a health risk to the mother.