Many people whine and complain about your apparently difficult life. Something is not going the way it is supposed to go. Professionally everything is good, but privately it’s a disaster; or privately it’s going great, but professionally nothing is going at all. Somehow the worm is in it and there is always some kind of difficulty.
Do not look for the reasons for your circumstances outside of YOU
You meet a person, fall totally in love with him, but there are complications because the other is not really free yet or lives too far away. You decide to move, but you just can’t find a suitable apartment. You apply for a new job and get only rejections. Or it is spring, the first rays of the sun are shining into your apartment and you would like to go outside immediately to enjoy the warmth of the sun on your skin. But then you notice how dirty the windows are and you start cleaning the windows and tidying up the apartment on your day off.
If one asks you, why that is in such a way, you find surely completely many reasons outside of you. It is due to the circumstances, the housing market, the job market or the fact that no one else is doing it. But that’s just not true: if it’s your result, then the cause is IN you – not outside of you.
Move away from your victim point of view
Why do you make it difficult for yourself in your life?? And I can already hear you thinking "I don’t want that at all!". That’s right, you don’t want this and yet you live in an intention through which your "hard life" is created (see also the article Do you always get what you want?).
From the originator point of view, you are the creator of all outcomes and events in your life. You create your reality through your thoughts and innermost beliefs, which produce the result "hard life" for you: If you are convinced that life is hard, then it is so. You always get what you think; you create it through your thinking.
You do not have to make your life difficult
It may be that you follow your parents and have adopted their beliefs. If they always had it hard, then you learned from them that you survive when you have it hard. Or you live in the conviction that something that is difficult to achieve is good and valuable. And if you want to have value or be good, then logically it must be hard in your life.
It can also be that you punish yourself or someone else with your "heavy life". Maybe you think your parents did something wrong in your upbringing and now you punish them by having a hard time in life. Maybe you just want to belong and because ALL your friends are having a hard time, you have to have a hard time too.
If anything in your life is difficult, the cause lies within you – in your belief system. You can stop blaming someone else for what you are doing. The good thing is that if you are responsible for it, you can change it. You only need to find out. in which conviction you live and to change this then.
Your life is what you create it to be… and you can have it easy – really!
Thank you for your attention and I hope this post has given you some ideas for a slightly different way of looking at life.
If you want to hear more from me, check out my podcast and if you want to see me, I recommend my YouTube channel. Maybe you will find something that will help you on your way to a happy and fulfilled life.
Be nice to yourself and to everyone else!
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