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#Personality types Which personality type are you??
You know her, too, that one colleague who talks all the time while you yourself are drowning in work. Concentrate on getting things out of the way? No chance. And if you then also times what on the soul burns, the chatterbox does not hear guaranteed correctly. Yes, that sucks. But: probably she just can’t get out of her skin ..
Personality Types: There are 3 basic character types
Why we are the way we are is something that psychography – a young branch of psychology – is now trying to fathom more precisely. In addition to the well-known factors such as upbringing, biography or genes, which have an influence on the personality, another element is added here: the temperament. In the so-called nature research it is assumed that every person specializes in one area of life: in the world of thoughts, feelings or actions. Translated into everyday life, this means that we are thinkers, feelers or doers – and experience the world accordingly.
Thinkers, Feelers and Doers in comparison
Imagine you are invited to a girls’ night out and all three personality types are represented among the guests. "The thinker is the quiet one at the table, tends to observe and shows less of the big feelings. The feeler is all about having a good relationship with everyone when they’re together; they want to come across as likable as possible – body language-wise as well as verbally. The doer would be an ideal hostess and would take care of everyone. She deals with the practical issues and seems almost at a loss when there’s nothing to do," explains Dr. Dietmar Friedmann, psychologist and author ("Personality types – specialists for life skills," WBG Verlag, at 40 euros).
These differences in thinking and acting can already be recognized in children, and in the basic tendencies they remain throughout life. But that doesn’t mean we can’t change over time, as Dr. Friedmann has found out: "The original specialization is no longer sufficient for many people. So the doer usually wants to get more into feeling at some point, the feeler more into thinking and the thinker more into doing. This is the decisive step to take in personality development."
Of course, every personality type thinks, feels and acts, and many of us are certainly mixed types, but nevertheless, every person has a basic and distinct imprint. How we can recognize them and what strengths they give us? Learn more about this exciting part of your personality here. Let’s go!
Being happy is (not) a question of type
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Personality type no. 1: The thinker
You don’t book a hotel room until you’ve checked all the prices on the net and you’re absolutely sure you’ve found the best deal. In addition, you have countless to-do lists lying around, and you are also very talented at writing things down. You seldom make big speeches. Your thoughts usually revolve around a single thing for a long time, which is why you often seem somewhat absent-minded.
Strengths of Thinkers: Thinkers invest a lot of time – in important tasks, but also in people who are close to them. You are considerate and demonstrate meticulous perseverance, even with unpleasant things.
Quirks of thinker types: Thinkers often seem cool and very introverted. It seems that you have to pull everything out of their nose. That’s why you quickly get the feeling that you will never be able to understand it completely.
Your key to happiness: Dare to do something crazy, something new! And invite others into your own world of thought from time to time.
And in love? Between two thinkers it takes a lot of words. But: If one part is hurtful, it does not come to a discussion for a long time, because both brood for themselves. Doers fit perfectly in bed, because they take the active part. Feelers tend to be perceived as exhausting – but also as entertaining.
Personality type no. 2: The feeler
A friend is heartbroken? The probability that tears will come to your eyes is relatively high. You are sensitive, feel pain intensely and have a lot of empathy. Your penchant for music, books or long TV evenings is particularly pronounced. The main thing, cozy and no sensory overload. Your motto "I’d rather sleep on it" helps you in every situation in life.
Strengths of emotional people: Feelers go through life without a mask. In addition, they are lively and like to talk about everything that moves them. They are also at the forefront of creativity.
Quirks of the Feeling Type: Feelers rarely think long before they do or say something, and sometimes change their mind abruptly. They regularly maneuver themselves into messes through rash actions.
Your key to happiness: Let peace into life and take small time-outs more often. So even the inner turmoil has a break.
And in love? Feelers are very affectionate with each other, but their quarrels can also become emotional. And: Feelers need something for the eye – for example sexy underwear or a candlelight dinner. With a thinker partner, it’s less fiery but harmonious. Doers are not gentle enough.
Personality type no. 3: The doer
Always go for it, that’s your motto – whether in private, at work or when you meet new people. Doers talk a lot, but are not good listeners. You can trust your gut feeling – but only if you take the time to pay attention to it as well. You feel thirst, hunger, or pain rather weakly, so it often happens that you need a pill, toilet, or chocolate bar very urgently.
Strengthen your doer mentality: Doers are determined, get things done without hesitation, and are not afraid to take responsibility. Above all, they are very good at the way of presenting themselves.
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Quirks of doers: In the midst of so much action, doers usually don’t notice right away when someone in their environment has worries or needs help. That easily earns them a reputation for being ruthless.
Your key to happiness: Don’t always just send, but also receive. And: go out into nature more often, let everything sink in.
And in love? There are occasional clashes among doers, but reconciliation (usually) follows promptly. Doers need to think harder into the unthinking nature of feelers. And with the thinker partner: Ask more often what’s going on inside him, and learn that he will not come out with the language by itself.
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