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Let’s say you’re back together with your:r ex.

The first few weeks go well, until the old patterns eventually creep back in.

And – BOOM – the next relationship crisis is here.

That does not have to be.

Because getting together with your ex is cool, but if the relationship doesn’t last, it was kind of a wasted effort, right??

That’s why I have 3 tips for you here, how the relationship with your:r ex will also be long and harmonious.

#1 Meta communication

"Meta" means as much as "on a higher level".

Meta-communication in a relationship is called: "We talk about us." And this is probably the most important tip when you are back together with your ex.

You can see how this works well with politicians.

If the asked something and do not want to answer it, then they do meta-communication and say, for example: "This is a very naughty interview though!"

By doing this, you lift the conversation away from the factual level and talk "about the conversation".

Politicians usually only do this in the negative because they want to avoid a question.

In a relationship, however, you should use meta-communication only in a positive way, that is, just to talk "about the relationship".

This can be, for example, in the particular situation: "Yes, it’s challenging right now, but we’ll figure it out!"

Or even when you notice that you guys always avoid a certain topic: "I notice that we always avoid this topic. I think it’s okay if we do that, I just wanted to ask you if it’s okay for you too, if we don’t talk about it right now?"

So you don’t talk about the thing itself, but how you feel about the thing.

#2 Address things with a proposed solution

Especially with topics that have often led to conflicts in the past relationship, it is important to address them in a solution-oriented way.

Let’s assume that you used to just hang out in front of the TV in the evening.

And one reason for breaking up was that the relationship had fallen asleep and was a bit boring.

Know that these routines can probably also become naturalized again. Even if you have moved on since the breakup, you are still the same person.

And here again meta-communication helps you.

If you notice that such routines are settling in again, which can potentially also be attributed to the breakup reason, then you can say: "Ui, I notice that the coziness comes along again. What can we do so that we can come together well on this point?"

#3 Say positive things about your partner

Every relationship lives on positivity.

Positive emotions make love happen – the basis of any relationship.

An extremely effective relationship practice is to say positive things about your partner.

So to say what you appreciate in the other and how the partner enriches your life.

This also means, for example, being respectful to each other and really meeting your partner.

You can also find out more in this video of mine:

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Now I hand over to you!

You learned how to get back together with your:r ex in this article.

You know that this is possible and that probabilities are not really meaningful in this respect.

And you’re ready to go the distance yourself and know 3 effective tips on how to make the new relationship with your:r ex (and then "no longer" ex) harmonious and happy.

On the way there my free Ex Back Crash Course can help you too.

In it you will learn in 7 videos how you can pull your:r ex back into your life:

13 Comments on "Getting back together after a breakup: Here’s how [+ probability!]"

My girlfriend broke up with with because we just didn’t listen to each other in the last few weeks. Now it is that we parted on good terms. We both had a really nice final talk so that I could show her that it is possible to talk to me and I also like to listen to her.

We both still love each other, but the confidence to really get it together the way it should be is simply very weak.
Still, we have nowhere blocked and stand by each other when the other is doing badly. Since this relationship (from her words) is the one she looks back on very fondly.

What are these signs? How should I deal with it? I still want the relationship and hope it is right from the hints to continue to fight..but how do you do that in this situation?

Hello, dear scenario 2 team.

My ex-boyfriend on 01. April broke up with me after a week and a half break in the relationship.
On the grounds that he was not capable of being in a relationship.

We were together for almost 7 months, but we had not seen each other privately for the last 2 months of the relationship.

We are both psychologically ill, he seems to be relationship phobic or fearful of commitment.

He said at the end suddenly relationship was too much responsibility for him and he had physical symptoms and a pressure in the vicinity of a relationship.

We had not seen each other for the last 2 months of the relationship.

In addition, we work together and our colleagues did not like it to us. And tried to destroy the relationship.

He started to neglect me. By working from home and playing computer games with his colleagues. Our contact was always quite unstable in the beginning. And I had fear of loss.

Saw us at work after a long time, where we were but not together again. But I was reluctant, because of the colleagues and because we have not seen each other for months. He had the feeling that I was not happy to see him. But I explained to him that I felt uncomfortable because of the stress with the colleagues. And that it was not meant that way.

Then came the break and then he broke up, with the reason he would not be relationship capable.

I initiated a contact ban which was broken a few times because he did not accept it and he provoked me at work. He wanted to stay in contact and be friends with me, he didn’t accept the block at first.

He provoked me by going out with someone else, so the contact ban was also broken because some things or reasons were not yet clarified and because of the provocation.

Afterwards I found out about the problem he had with responsibility and closeness.

He said he still loved me, but could not have a relationship at the time.

In any case, apart from work and posts on Facebook, we had no more contact. Were blocked each other via WhatsApp and Facebook Messanger.

But he suddenly unblocked me on Facebook and messanger again a few weeks ago, but still not on WhatsApp.

I did not manage the first attempted contact ban. But now we have one again but are mutually blocked.

Is there still a chance, do you think he misses me and might come back soon and contact me??

He still loved me and could not have a relationship only because of the problem with responsibility and closeness in the relationship.

Hello, dear scenario 2 team.

My ex-boyfriend on 01. April after a one and a half week relationship break broke up with me.
On the grounds that he was not capable of a relationship.

We were together for almost 7 months, but had not seen each other privately for the last 2 months in the relationship.

We are both psychologically ill, he seems to be relationship phobic or anxious of commitment.

He said at the end suddenly relationship was too much responsibility and he had physical symptoms and a pressure at the proximity of a relationship.

We had not seen each other for the last 2 months of the relationship.

In addition, we work together and our colleagues did not like it to us. And tried to destroy the relationship.

He started to neglect me. In addition, he was working from home and he was playing computer games with his colleagues. Our contact was always quite unstable in the beginning. And I had fear of loss.

Saw us at work after a long time, where we were not together again. I was reluctant because of the colleagues and because we have not seen each other for months. He had the feeling that I was not pleased to see him. But I explained to him that I felt uncomfortable because of the stress with my colleagues. And that it was not meant that way.

Then came the break up and then he broke up with you, saying he was not relationship material.

I started a no-contact policy which was broken a few times because he didn’t accept it and he provoked me at work. He still wanted to have contact and remain friends with me, he did not accept the block at first.

He provoked by going away with someone else, this also broke the contact ban because some things or reasons were not yet clarified and because of the provocation.

Afterwards I found out about the problem he had with responsibility and closeness.

He said he still loved me, but could not have a relationship at the moment.

In any case, apart from work and Facebook posts, we haven’t been in touch. Were blocked each other via WhatsApp and Facebook Messanger.

But he suddenly unblocked me on Facebook and Messanger a few weeks ago, but still not on WhatsApp.

Didn’t manage the first attempted contact ban. But now we have one again but are mutually blocked.

Is there still a chance, do you think he misses me and will come back soon and might contact you?

After all, he still loved me and could not have a relationship only because of the problem with responsibility and closeness in the relationship.

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