Would you like to be stronger? Have a greater sense of self? Dare to be more you and to do your thing? Easier to approach people. Just say, ‘Hey, I’m o. k. how I am, no matter what the others think. Could these be your thoughts? If so, then you are right here. Because we show you the way to more self-confidence. So come with us on a journey that will make you stronger and more like the person you want to be. We know this works.
Self-confidence: What is that anyway?
- … within the philosophy a man’s awareness of himself as thinking and feeling beings; the consciousness of their own existence.
- … in everyday life being convinced of your own abilities and one’s own value as a person, which one can also show outwardly.
So self-confidence has less to do with walking upright, maintaining eye contact or smiling a lot. It is rather the feeling ..
- … to know ourselves well,
- … to be aware of our strengths and weaknesses
- … and to stand by oneself and one’s personality in spite of everything.
So self-confidence is a mixture of self-knowledge, self-confidence and self-acceptance. The term self-confidence, is often used as a synonym for self-esteem. It is closely related to self-confidence, but it means more the deeds and actions that follow from it, if you are self-confident. Because if you know yourself with all corners and edges, then you also know what you are capable of. And you can be confident to accomplish what you set out to do.
And although the foundation stone for healthy self-confidence often not laid by ourselves, we can work on becoming more self-aware(er). But why do many people lack Self-confidence and inner strength?
I am not self-confident – what could be the reason for this??
The foundation for your own self-confidence is usually laid in childhood or. even earlier, in one’s own genes. But that is not all. Because in addition, our own environment and the people with whom we surround ourselves have a great influence on it, how we perceive ourselves. It has a particularly negative effect on our self-confidence if we often experience rejection early in life.
In the course of our lives, we encounter many people who communicate to us, how they find and perceive us. Friends, teachers, partners, superiors or neighbors put a stamp on us throughout our lives. If we often meet with rejection and still always depend on the evaluation of others, our self-confidence begins to suffer.
Because then the view from the outside is suddenly more important than the image we have of ourselves. And that leads to ..
- Insecurity,
- Self-doubt
- and a cracked self-confidence.
If you recognize yourself here and can sing a song yourself about how other people drag you down, then that’s no need to hang our heads. Because self-confidence is not only something you can lose, you can also build it up again. How do you know now.
Boosting self-confidence: What does it take to become more self-confident?
Here you find first of all the basis for that Exercises and tips, that we have collected for you here, will work.
Self-awareness comes from observing oneself and Observation critically scrutinized. At least that’s what the famous philosopher Immanuel Kant says. But watching ourselves can be quite exhausting. However, there is one thing that helps us to (observe)respect and accept ourselves: Self-friendliness.
Self-friendliness means nothing more than To be friendly with oneself. In other words, the way we would ideally treat a good friend:
- We talk friendly and respectful with a friend.
- We listen well to our friend without judging him or her.
- We build up our friend and give courage, when something bad has happened.
- We tell him that we like him.
- We forgive to him, if he has behaved stupidly, because we know that we humans are not perfect and everyone has a bad day sometimes.
This is exactly how we treat ourselves. We speak in our thoughts friendly and respectful with us. At eye level. Without accusations, meanness and reproaches.
The more we learn to accept ourselves, the truer, more genuine, more authentic and we become more self-confident. So we show ourselves more and more often as we are. Without being ashamed of being who we are. We don’t feel the need to hide anymore. And we can then say more and more often: What you think of me is your problem and not mine.
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Becoming self-confident: 5 approaches to getting more self-confidence
Here we go now from theory to practice. You know now ..
- what self-confidence means,
- where it comes from,
- why some people have a hard time with it, Develop a healthy self-confidence
- and that self-friendliness is the basis for self-confidence.
Here you will find 5 phrases that are a sign of healthy self-confidence and that confident people can say with conviction. Of course Tips and exercises, How you can do the same.
1. I know myself
Self-confident people behave more confidently more often than people with low confidence in themselves. They react more calmly and serenely in difficult situations. They can listen to criticism and deal with it in a relaxed way.
In addition, people act healthy self-confidence more than they react. And they address things that are important to them. Why self-confident people can? Because they are clear about some important things:
- Self-confident people know who they are. Keyword: Self-knowledge.
- Self-confident people know what is important to them.
- Self-confident people have a healthy sense of their boundaries, i.e. what is acceptable behavior for them and what is encroaching or unacceptable behavior.
If you don’t know the answer to the question "Who am I really??If you have "self-confidence", then our Guide to the topic certainly help. Best open it right now in a new tab.
This knowledge then brings inner stability. And because people with self-confidence know that, they can’t be taken by surprise or thrown off balance so easily. Because they are inwardly strengthened by their clarity. In these 3 points from above lies the path you can take if you want to understand more sovereignty wish.
- Find out who you are.
- Figure out what’s really important to you and where you’re not willing to compromise.
- Define your limits. Decide what you will and will not allow other people to do in the future.
Of course, these 3 points are not so quickly resolved for yourself. Nevertheless, it is worthwhile to deal with these questions deeply over a longer period of time and these Develop clarity for yourself. Because that brings you more security, more sovereignty and more self-confidence.
By the way, we have a sophisticated program – Find your compass – with which one can get to know oneself and one’s wishes and needs better and better in very small steps.
2. I also look at my strengths
When we Difficulties with our self-confidence then this is often due to our focus. You know what it’s like, there are pessimists who always see the dangers and risks in the world. And there are optimists who always see the opportunities and possibilities. Both groups look at the same world, they just have a different pair of glasses at. We also wear glasses when it comes to ourselves. Couldn’t we just take them off and put on different glasses? Yes. That we can.
The first step is to realize, "Hey, I have glasses on that prevent me from my good sides see." These glasses may have been created by negative messages and signals from teachers, parents, relatives or other people. Maybe it came into being in another way. And it is important to understand: Everyone has strengths, gifts and talents. Everyone!
Your task now is, to take off the negative glasses and start looking for the things you are good at. For this purpose, here is a series of questions you can ask yourself.
- Where I always say: "But that’s nothing. That does not count. Anyone can do that"? (Most of the time, not everyone can do it, it’s just natural for us because we can do it.)
- What have I achieved in my life so far? And which abilities, characteristics, strengths helped me to do this?
- What is very important to me? And which of my (positive) qualities can be recognized behind it?
- What do others praise me for?
What you can also do is to review your day every evening for a few weeks and ask yourself: What have I actually done quite well today? By asking this question, you also direct your focus to your small and big successes and to your strengths. Try it once.
3. I live my values
Under point 1 you could read how important it is to know who you are. It also includes knowing what is important to you. It is not only important to know your own values. It is equally important to live it and defend it to others.
- If you don’t, and you care too much about what’s important to others, you’ll quickly come up with the self-respect
- As soon as I live my values as well as I can, it increases my self-esteem. So it’s important to live what’s important to you.
How can you tell that something is really important to you?? Mainly because you automatically strive for that this important thing in one’s own life is fulfilled. And that I really get into action when one of my values is threatened.
- If I separate my garbage every day, am a member of Greenpeace and go to demonstrations against environmental pollution, then environmental protection is obviously important to me.
- Or if I lovingly take care of my loved ones every day and try to make it as nice as possible for everyone, if it is important to me that we do something as a family, then "family" is one of my values.
There are so many values. Justice. Dear. Tolerance. With each other. Success. Self-determination. Harmony. Serenity. And, and, and … To hold one’s own values high and to live one’s life as well as possible according to them, is a important part in becoming self-confident. To do this always, no one gets. But as often as possible is possible. And how do you do that? Just ask yourself two questions about this:
- What is really important to me in life?
- And what does a person, to whom these things are important, in everyday life again and again?
And after you have answered these questions, then try to bring your actions more and more in line with your ideal. Because then soon you can Looking in the mirror with pride And tell you: I am true to myself. I live what is important to me.
4. I solve my problems
People with a strong sense of self solve their problems. That doesn’t mean they’re like Superman, sorting out all problems with a little wave of the hand. But they have their problems on the note and try to gradually, Finding solutions for them. You do not pull the head in and wait until it is over.
you do not wait for a savior to come and Get the matter out of the way for them. They say to themselves: this is crap, this can’t go on, that’s why I’m going to do something about it. And then they do something to sort out the problem. And they don’t blame one thing or another person for their problems.